Shannon L. Alder Quote #1
Hey You
You are beautiful.
You are talented.
You are blessed.
You are gifted.
You are smart.
You are funny.
You are fun.
You are loving.
You are lovable.
You are unique.
You are special.
But most of all, you are strong and will get through this because there are others that have gone through something similar. Look for them. Because they are looking for you!Shannon L. Alder Quote #2
You Chose
You chose.
You chose.
You chose.
You chose to give away your love.
You chose to have a broken heart.
You chose to give up.
You chose to hang on.
You chose to react.
You chose to feel insecure.
You chose to feel anger.
You chose to fight back.
You chose to have hope.
You chose to be naïve.
You chose to ignore your intuition.
You chose to ignore advice.
You chose to look the other way.
You chose to not listen.
You chose to be stuck in the past.
You chose your perspective.
You chose to blame.
You chose to be right.
You chose your pride.
You chose your games.
You chose your ego.
You chose your paranoia.
You chose to compete.
You chose your enemies.
You chose your consequences.
You chose.
You chose.
You chose.
You chose.
However, you are not alone. Generations of women in your family have chosen. Women around the world have chosen. We all have chosen at one time in our lives. We stand behind you now screaming:
Choose to let go.
Choose dignity.
Choose to forgive yourself.
Choose to forgive others.
Choose to see your value.
Choose to show the world you’re not a victim.
Choose to make us proud.Shannon L. Alder Quote #3
Anyone can say 'I love you', however so many other sayings carry more weight in a relationship:
“I understand what you went through because I went through it too.”
“I believe you and in you.”
“I see the pain you are going through and we will conquer this together.”
“I don’t want to change you. I just want to help you become the best version of yourself.”
“You matter to me, therefore I will be there for you always.”
I will never keep things from you because you have my respect and friendship. If I find out someone is putting you down, I will stand up for you. ”
“Your character will always shine when I speak about you because to damage your name is to damage ours.”
“I will go to the ends of the earth to save you from yourself or others.”
“What you have to say is important to me because I see you’re hurting and that hurts me, so I am going to listen. Together we will solve this problem.”
“I don’t care about your past. That was yesterday. Today, we are going to start over because people make mistakes, but they don’t have to pay for them for the rest of their life.”
How can I help you get through this?
“In sickness or in health...I meant it and I will search the world to find a way to keep you in it because you mean that much to me.”
“I don’t want to be your parent. I want to be your best friend, lover, cheering section, playmate and fill all the important parts of your soul. Together we will fill the rest as equals.Shannon L. Alder Quote #4
Silence Never
Silence never healed the lonely.
Silence never comforted the broken hearted.
Silence never saved a life.
Silence never won an argument with kindness.
Silence never healed the poor.
Silence never learned compassion.
Silence never saw the pain in another.
Silence never asked for forgiveness.
Silence never felt remorse.
Silence never felt empathy.
Silence never grew up.
Silence never listened to promptings.
Silence never resolved a problem.
Silence never had closure.
Silence never had a conscience.
Silence never developed integrity.
Silence never knew manners.
Silence never learned respect.
Silence never matured.
Silence never understood that the bible and its stories was God’s way of saying, “Stop being silent and start healing one another.”
Silence never realized that Christ was an activist for communication.Shannon L. Alder Quote #5
Six Beliefs That Set the Course of Your Life
1. If you don’t believe the impossible can happen, then you are right.
2. When you feel like you are less than others, then you are right.
3. When you believe what you have and how you were raised keeps you from having everything you ever dreamed of, you are right.
4. When you believe your mistakes can’t be undone, you are right.
5. When you feel this is the best it is going to get, you are right.
6. When you think someone will never change or rise above their brokenness, you are WRONG!Shannon L. Alder Quote #6
The only person that should wear your ring is the one person that would never…
1.Ask you to remain silent and look the other way while they hurt another.
2.Jeopardize your future by taking risks that could potentially ruin your finances or reputation.
3.Teach your children that hurting others is okay because God loves them more. God didn’t ask you to keep your family together at the expense of doing evil to others.
4.Uses religious guilt to control you, while they are doing unreligious things.
5.Doesn't believe their actions have long lasting repercussions that could affect other people negatively.
6.Reminds you of your faults, but justifies their own.
7.Uses the kids to manipulate you into believing you are nothing. As if to suggest, you couldn’t leave the relationship and establish a better Christian marriage with someone that doesn’t do these things. Thus, making you believe God hates all the divorced people and will abandon you by not bringing someone better to your life, after you decide to leave. As if!
8.They humiliate you online and in their inner circle. They let their friends, family and world know your transgressions.
9. They tell you no marriage is perfect and you are not trying, yet they are the one that has stirred up more drama through their insecurities.
10.They say they are sorry, but they don’t show proof through restoring what they have done.
11.They don’t make you a better person because you are miserable. They have only made you a victim or a bitter survivor because of their need for control over you.
12.Their version of success comes at the cost of stepping on others.
13.They make your marriage a public event, in order for you to prove your love online for them.
14.They lie, but their lies are often justified.
15.You constantly have to start over and over and over with them, as if a connection could be grown and love restored through a honeymoon phase, or constant parental supervision of one another’s down falls.
16.They tell you that they don’t care about anyone other than who they love. However, their actions don’t show they love you, rather their love has become bitter insecurity disguised in statements such as, “Look what I did for us. This is how much I care.”
17.They tell you who you can interact with and who you can’t.
18.They believe the outside world is to blame for their unhappiness.
19.They brought you to a point of improvement, but no longer have your respect.
20. They don't make you feel anything, but regret. You know in your heart you settled.Shannon L. Alder Quote #7
The Prodigal Son
They gave the deep end of their heart--a hue of crimson red,
They whispered their desire and offered up their bed,
Yet he prayed for the spirit in the wind and God’s mysteries to find,
And in the end it was her transparent heart that stole his restless mind,
It really was no contest, not a question or even a doubt,
But that is not where love ends or even what true love is all about,
You see there was one other that rose above the rest,
She was not like these women but still she was God’s very best,
So the moral goes: A child answered the call to this man's wandering heart,
And that is how the story ends you see... she became his favorite part,
And what happened to the virtuous woman who put his mind in hell,
She became the whisper in his music and a mystery to tell.Shannon L. Alder Quote #8
The Voyager
We are all lonely voyagers sailing on life's ebb tide,
To a far off place were all stripling warriors have died,
Sometime at eve when the tide is low,
The voices call us back to the rippling water's flow,
Even though our boat sailed with love in our hearts,
Neither our dreams or plans would keep heaven far apart,
We drift through the hush of God's twilight pale,
With no response to our friendly hail,
We raise our sails and search for majestic light,
While finding company on this journey to the brighten our night,
Then suddenly he pulls us through the reef's cutting sea,
Back to the place that he asked us to be,
Friendly barges that were anchored so sweetly near,
In silent sorrow they drop their salted tears,
Shall our soul be a feast of kelp and brine,
The wasted tales of wishful time,
Are we a fish on a line lured with bait,
Is life the grind, a heartless fate,
Suddenly, HUSH, said the wind from afar,
Have you not looked to the heavens and seen the new star,
It danced on the abyss of the evening sky,
The sparkle of heaven shining on high,
Its whisper echoed on the ocean's spray,
From the bow to the mast they heard him say,
Hope is above, not found in the deep,
I am alive in your memories and dreams when you sleep,
I will greet you at sunset and with the moon's evening smile,
I will light your path home.. every last lonely mile,
My friends, have no fear, my work was done well,
In this life I broke the waves and rode the swell,
I found faith in those that I called my crew,
My love will be the compass that will see you through,
So don't look for me on the ocean's floor to find,
I've never left the weathered docks of your loving mind,
For I am in the moon, the wind and the whale's evening song,
I am the sailor of eternity whose voyage is not gone.Shannon L. Alder Quote #9
A best friend is the one person that doesn't leave you worse off by their actions or yours.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #10
A best friend is the only one that walks into your life when the world has walked out.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #11
A boy has other people do the talking for him; a man speaks his mind.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #12
A brilliant mind was first a listener that observed the actions of the people that loved and hated them, then found a way to express their feelings, when real communication was lost.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #13
A broken soul doesn't invest in boundaries because the world has crossed them, without mercy.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #14
A competitive and insecure woman will tell you that “true love” is never giving up on someone you're in love with. A confident and spiritual woman knows that “moving on” doesn’t mean you never loved someone. She realizes that letting go is what God needs her to do because both your happiness and hers requires taking different journeys for spiritual growth. Letting go is sometimes the hardest thing, but it is the most “real love” you will ever experience.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #15
A coward talks to everyone but YOU.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #16
A daughter of God knows that insecurity is not an excuse for doing evil to others, nor will God rest until caring for everyone is a lesson you learn.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #17
A deceitful man will go as far as to trample all over a woman’s reputation and spirit, in order to prove to his ex-love that he was faithful. The irony, is he is still in love with his ex and the new woman in his life doesn’t even realize it.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #18
A fantasy is nothing more than a dream you were too scared to chase.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #19
A friend is not the shadow that mimics you, but the one who casts all shadows away.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #20
A goal will always tell you where you don't want to be.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #21
A heart worth loving is one you understand, even in silence.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #22
A kind word will never replace the conversation that God has prompted you to repeatedly have.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #23
A life out of balance is a person that doesn’t believe happiness can be achieved now, or in the future. It is as fleeting as the wind.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #24
A man of worth is a man that sees the worth in others more than himself.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #25
A man worth being with is one…
That never lies to you
Is kind to people that have hurt him
A person that respects another’s life
That has manners and shows people respect
That goes out of his way to help people
That feels every person, no matter how difficult, deserves compassion
Who believes you are the most beautiful person he has ever met
Who brags about your accomplishments with pride
Who talks to you about anything and everything because no bad news will make him love you less
That is a peacemaker
That will see you through illness
Who keeps his promises
Who doesn’t blame others, but finds the good in them
That raises you up and motivates you to reach for the stars
That doesn’t need fame, money or anything materialistic to be happy
That is gentle and patient with children
Who won’t let you lie to yourself; he tells you what you need to hear, in order to help you grow
Who lives what he says he believes in
Who doesn’t hold a grudge or hold onto the past
Who doesn’t ask his family members to deliberately hurt people that have hurt him
Who will run with your dreams
That makes you laugh at the world and yourself
Who forgives and is quick to apologize
Who doesn’t betray you by having inappropriate conversations with other women
Who doesn’t react when he is angry, decides when he is sad or keep promises he doesn’t plan to keep
Who takes his children’s spiritual life very seriously and teaches by example
Who never seeks revenge or would ever put another person down
Who communicates to solve problems
Who doesn’t play games or passive aggressively ignores people to hurt them
Who is real and doesn’t pretend to be something he is not
Who has the power to free you from yourself through his positive outlook
Who has a deep respect for women and treats them like a daughter of God
Who doesn’t have an ego or believes he is better than anyone
Who is labeled constantly by people as the nicest person they have ever met
Who works hard to provide for the family
Who doesn’t feel the need to drink alcohol to have a good time, smoke or do drugs
Who doesn't have to hang out a bar with his friends, but would rather spend his time with his family
Who is morally free from sin
Who sees your potential to be great
Who doesn't think a woman's place has to be in the home; he supports your life mission, where ever that takes you
Who is a gentleman
Who is honest and lives with integrity
Who never discusses your private business with anyone
Who will protect his family
Who forgives, forgets, repairs and restores
When you find a man that possesses these traits then all the little things you don’t have in common don’t matter. This is the type of man worth being grateful for.Shannon L. Alder Quote #26
A man worth loving is a man that never makes you feel like an option.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #27
A paradox is a storm that rains on itself.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #28
A person that doesn't know their worth will never know yours. Therefore, the longer you hang onto hope that they will finally see your worth is the moment you start to depreciate in value.
Shannon L. Alder Quote #29
A Plan B life can be just as good or better than a Plan A life. You just have to let go of that first dream and realize that God has already written the first chapter of the new life that awaits you. All you have to do is start reading!
Shannon L. Alder Quote #30
A quote is not a conversation, but an invitation to change your perspective.
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