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Suzanne Finnamore Quotes | Quotes said by Suzanne Finnamore

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #1

    It´s a little song about abandonment, and it goes something like this....


  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #2

    You get what you give, we will tell his sorry, selfish ass. The Betty Lady has spoken. I detect a Bronx accent.
    But, I demur, it will make the other woman say, ´See? She IS a jealous and paranoid and pushy wife.´
    The Betty Lady rips open a cell phone statement with a nail file and, without looking up at me, says, Let me tell you something, honey. In my experience? The only thing they care about is what they see in the mirror each morning and WINNING...or their perception of winning.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #3

    A heart can stop beating for a while, one can still live.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #4

    Already things are changing; it´s starting with small shit but oh it´s starting, the change, the irrevocable, impossible change.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #5

    Although I notice there is never a truly good time to have a nice long chat with one´s mother-in-law, unless you are having an extraordinary life and marriage and your mother-in-law is, say, Maureen Dowd, or Indira Gandhi. Someone of that ilk.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #6

    Any way I slice reality it comes out poorly, and I feel an urge to not exist, something I have never felt before; and now here it comes with conviction, almost panic. I mentally bless and exonerate anyone who has kicked a chair out from beneath her or swallowed opium in large chunks. My mind has met their environment, here in the void. I understand perfectly.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #7

    Bushwhacked, I examine my hands. Same hands. Rings still there but no longer valid.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #8

    Conversely, I though humiliation would be everything, but it´s such a nothing.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #9

    Daily I walk around my small, picturesque town with a thought bubble over my head: Person Going Through A Divorce. When I look at other people, I automatically form thought bubbles over their heads. Happy Couple With Stroller. Innocent Teenage Girl With Her Whole Life Ahead Of Her. Content Grandmother And Grandfather Visiting Town Where Their Grandchildren Live With Intact Parents. Secure Housewife With Big Diamond. Undamaged Group Of Young Men On Skateboards. Good Man With Baby In BabyBjörn Who Loves His Wife. Dogs Who Never Have To Worry. Young Kids Kissing Publicly. Then every so often I see one like me, one of the shambling gaunt women without makeup, looking older than she is: Divorcing Woman Wondering How The Fuck This Happened.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #10

    Delusion detests focus and romance provides the veil.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #11

    Flannel shirts should be outlawed for ex husbands; I realize this now. Flannel shirts are to women what crotchless panties are to men.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #12

    For me, it´s sloth, I say. Hedonistic sloth and escapism.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #13

    God is great and God is good, Lisa says. But where are the Apache attack helicopters when you need them?

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #14

    He announces that lately he keeps losing things. Like your wife and child, I want to say, but don´t. At fourty, I´ve learned not to say everything clever, not to score every point.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #15

    He left a bit too easily and with obvious relief. His feet were swift and sure on the muddy path.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #16

    How can I grieve what is still in motion? I ask her. Shoes are still dropping all over the place. I´m not kidding, I say. It´s Normandy out there.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #17

    How could you do that to me? I repeat. I don´t have to itemize. He knows what I speak of.
    Eventually N produces three answers, in this order:

    1. Because I am a complete rotter. I silently agree, but it´s a cop-out: I have maggots, therefore I am dead.
    2. I was stressed at work and unhappy and we were always fighting...and you know I was just crazy...

    I cut him off, saying, You don´t get to be crazy. You did exactly what you chose to do.
    Which is true, he did. It is what he has always done. He therefore seems slightly puzzled at the need for further diagnosis, which may explain his third response:

    3. I don´t know.

    This, I feel instinctively, is the correct answer. How can I stay angry with him for being what he is? I was, after all, his wife, and I chose him. No coincidences, that´s what Freud said. None. Ever.
    I wipe my eyes on my sleeve and walk toward the truck, saying to his general direction, Fine. At least now I know: You don´t know.
    I stop and turn around and fire one more question: a bullet demanding attention in the moment it enters the skin and spreads outward, an important bullet that must be acknowledged.
    What did you feel?
    After a lengthy pause, he answers. I felt nothing.
    And that, I realize too late, was not the whole truth, but was a valid part of the truth.
    Oh, and welcome to the Serengeti. That too.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #18

    How do you know? How best to ensure his nervous breakdown? I ask.

    Keep going, Christian says. Just go on as if nothing has happened. We all hate that.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #19

    I am going insane. Yes. That is what´s happening. Good. Insane.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #20

    I am not ready to think of him as either insane or evil, to consider in full how I could love and have a child with such a person. I am not ready to think about anything, except ways in which this may still be averted.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #21

    I am replete with stamina in finding out every single fact I can about this whole affair.

    Yet, I think, do I want to pull that thread? Do I want to unleash the truth, unravel deceit, and kill reality as I´ve known it? It is irreparable, if I do, from the moment we met until now. It is long. If I discover too much that is false about what I thought my past was, Time will be skewed even further. I already have a poor connection with the present. Example: I have no sense of what day it is. It´s better.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #22

    I feel angry but not homocidal; this may be unlooked-for progress.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #23

    I feel incendiary, a wildfire. My spirit licks at the gates of a very elaborate, customized, and distracting emotional Hades.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #24

    I have a new mantra, which I chant softly to myself: Oh My God Oh My God.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #25

    I know my vision is impaired and cannot be trusted with even the simplest tasks, much less dating. Not that I´ve come within talon distance of a man.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #26

    I know one thing about men, Bunny says with finality, leaving the room to check on A. They never die when you want them to.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #27

    I love you as the mother of my child: the kiss of death.
    Mother of His Child: demotion. I am beginning to see this truism: Mothers are not always wives. I have been stripped of a piece of self.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #28

    I mentally bless and exonerate anyone who has kicked a chair out from beneath her or swallowed opium in large chunks. My mind has met their environment, here in the void. I understand perfectly.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #29

    I played possum. I did this, as the possum does, out of fear.

  • Suzanne Finnamore Quote #30

    I remember one desolate Sunday night, wondering: Is this how I´m going to spend the rest of my life? Marrid to someone who is perpetually distracted and somewhat wistful, as though a marvelous party is going on in the next room, which but for me he could be attending?

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